and here to your left we see society’s impossible to obtain standards for women
this makes me sick
But, notice that almost all the derogatory comments about the bigger body are by men, whereas the skinny shaming ones are made by women. Interesting.
Play with Oregon Humane Society kitty-cats through ROBOTIC TOYS that you can control through this website. IT HAS A LIVE FEED SO YOU CAN WATCH THEM WHILE YOU MOVE KITTY TOYS AROUND. AGHHAGHAHGAHGHAGHAHGHH
truly the internet is a gift
reblogging again because I did this and the cats played back and wow this was way too much fun go do it now
The abusive shithead above posted this online. This is what he did. I cannot imagine how I would feel if my abuser did something so revolting. Sarah is strong.
bringing this back because i’m probably going to be in the same town as this shithead next week and i dunno maybe i can try making him too scared to leave his house so i don’t have to see his disgusting face while i’m there
just an abbreviated version of the story: he raped and emotionally abused me when i was 15 and never faced a single fucking consequence while i’m still suffering the impacts 3 years later. when i confronted him about it earlier this year he made a bunch of fucking awful excuses like “what if i thought i was doing it to please you” and then he drew and posted the above picture, suggesting that i’m just being a ~big mean feminist~ by coming out about the rape and abuse because its “trendy”
his name is harley dutschke and last time i checked his number was 0439541403
i don’t think he has tumblr anymore
but this is his facebook:
and he lives in adelaide, south australia
i dunno just give him hell if you feel like it because i’m a vengeful little shit and he still hasn’t faced a single fucking consequence
In what is surely the most inconsiderate action he could possibly take, Tom Daley “came out” the day AFTER we recorded our new podcast, and so to save us from re-doing it and to stay ahead of the curve (basically this will all be forgotten in a week’s time) I’ve decided to do a blog about it.
Yes, Tom Daley, Olympic diver and twinky sex fantasy for a million gay men, has announced today in a video he posted on youtube that he is very happy in a committed monogomous relationship with a person of the same sex: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OJwJnoB9EKw
NO it did not come as a surprise to most of us and YES it is very exciting because now all of our wet dreams about him doing a high dive on to our faces is an inch closer to coming true, but amidst the celebration and congratulatory messages to Tom, there has been a wave of homophobic and biphobic tweets directed at him from both sides, and this is an issue that needs addressing.
Daley himself acknowledges in the video that there is going to be a huge uproar and mixed opinions on the matter, despite saying that he personally doesn’t think it’s a big deal. I have no intention of dwelling on the obvious drivel that the usual twitter cretins spout, but here’s a selection if you want to take a look for yourself:
The trolls are throwing around “faggot” like it’s going out of fashion, creating new and inventive ways to be horrendous human beings (“chutney pusher” was a stand out moment for me), as well as resorting to good old fashioned death threats and misrepresentation of Biblical allegory (it’s Adam and Eve, apparently). The absolutely atrocious nature of these tweets aside, they were not at all unexpected and it probably is the best course of action to just ignore these people and hope they eventually disintegrate from lack of attention.
What shocked me more was the surprising amount of gay+ people directing their furor at Tom. In trying not to make immediate assumptions about anyone’s sexuality or gender I’m not going to make any pointed selections, but there are several included on that list who would appear to be of the homosexual persuasion also joining in on calling Tom “faggot” and berating him for not “just coming out and saying he’s gay”. The insinuation, seen here and on my own feeds on twitter and facebook, is that Daley is Kinsey-6 gay and he owes it to the world to admit it, like the confessions of a corrupt president or a fascist dictator.
I suggest, if you haven’t already, that you watch the video and really listen to what Daley says. Quite specifically, he says he is happy and comfortable and safe with a man. He says he did not expect it. He says it was often in the back of his mind as a possibility. He says he still fancies girls and has dated girls. At no point during the 5:26 video does he once label himself with any sexuality. Tom Daley is 19, has been an Olympic-standard diver presumably since he was in utero, has had a life in front of cameras and in the public eye and constantly under the pressure and scrutiny of the British public. In the last two years he won an Olympic medal, his father died, and he did his A-levels. Remember when you did your A-Levels? Were you also musing on the intricacies of your sexuality whilst diving off a 10 metre high board in front of 8 million viewers? He has probably not even had time to really let the depth of this sink in, and is just for now enjoying the comfort and excitement of being in a real committed relationship that he is proud to share with the world and with a country that clearly means a lot to him.
He is under no obligation, in the same way that NOBODY is under any obligation, to define his sexuality for other people. It is for himself. And it is not something to have put upon him by others. I was shocked to see that Gay Times reported “Tom Daley comes out as gay” when he did not once use that word to describe himself. These media outlets are supposed to be supportive and inclusive and once again they prove themselves to be single-minded in their approach to these topics. Weighing up Daley’s words, the most accurate description of his current sexuality if we WERE to label it would be something like “bisexual” (although I reiterate it is NOT our place to define this for him). There is heavy suggestion from mainstream media outlets like Gay Times, as well as once again on twitter and facebook, that Daley is actually gay and that the girls he has dated and the girls he says he still fancies are some kind of cover up “to keep his fans”, because of course it would be impossible for someone to have sexual attraction to both male and female people. Bisexual erasure (which we talked about on our show with Josh Kitto http://qpunx.tumblr.com/post/68725066883/queer-punx-26-11-13-katy-perry-historys-greatest) is still so prevalent and Daley’s “coming out” highlights this problem so clearly, because the denial is not just on the part of heterosexual people attacking Daley for being a “faggot”, but also on people from the gay spectrum (and it does appear to be mostly cis white gay guys) calling him out for NOT being a “faggot”.
Someone even suggested the whole thing was a PR stunt before his new TV show.
"Coming out" is a huge thing for anyone. Daley very rightly acknowledges that he should not have to come out on a blog, or in a paper or on the TV for that matter, because it should be a non-issue. But until we are living in a world where trolls on twitter aren’t using vicious language to attack strangers, and where people of ANY sexuality are acknowledged, accepted, and respected, we still need people like Tom Daley making these statements and saying proudly that they are who they are, to be seen and heard and to be a voice to all of those around the world who still don’t have a voice, because of the trolls, and the religious zealots and the heteronormative masses still making it hard today to be out and proud.
Daley’s coming out is monumental as he is one of the first, one of the youngest, and one of the most famous and influential sports personalities in the country to come out. He deserves the celebration and recognition he gets, for being committed and passionate about his sport, and for making this statement in an environment where homophobia is still a huge problem.
Whatever Daley does from here will still be in the public eye, and he will continue to feel the pressure of everyone to perform under societal standards of the “right” way to be whatever sexuality he eventually chooses to define himself with (if any). However he develops, he deserves the same respect and compassion we would show anyone in this situation.
THE BEST PART ABOUT TODAY has of course been twitter’s absolute goldmine of tweets with the hashtag #bisexualfacts which you can read here:
Malcolm Venville. The Women of Casa X.
The British photographer Malcolm Venville has made a searing photographic record of a deranged reality. Complementing Venville’s photographs is a series of astonishingly candid interviews with the women of Casa X by the well-known Mexican writer Amanda de la Rosa. These are the portraits and testimonies of thirty-five survivors of the monster of the City, with much to say about life in a slum in Latin America: about the Mexico that horrifies, about sex, poverty, love, and the darkest side of human nature.
One night in Mexico City, Carmen Muñoz, sex worker, was roaming the streets looking for customers. Unexpectedly, she found two colleagues, both over sixty years old, sleeping on the street, covered by newspapers. After almost forty years of giving service to butchers, porters, refuse collectors and criminals, they were now long forgotten by their families and society. Carmen was confronted with what would be her own fate, like most women of her profession. Striving for dignity for all of them, she organised her colleagues and led a group that resolved to find a home where they could spend their last days in safety and warmth.
In 2006, after twelve years of work, and with the support of Mexican intellectuals and artists, the government gave them a seventeenth-century mansion, where Carmen founded Casa Xochiquetzal - Casa X. Around sixty women, all over fifty years old, receive shelter, food, and medical and psychological care. This is not just a retirement home - most of the women who live there still walk the streets. But Casa X is the only refuge for prostitutes in Latin America.
Casa X is located in the heart of the notorious district of Tepito. Although only eight blocks from the historic centre of Mexico City, Tepito is a micro-universe, where life is lived in a unique fashion. For nearly 500 years it has been a place of impunity, crime, smuggling, violence and prostitution. The neighbourhood did not submit to the Aztec Empire, or to the Spanish conquistadors, or to the current authorities. Tepito has an identity that goes beyond its boundaries. It has its own social organisation, myths, heroes, slang, and even its own local deity, La Santa Muerte (Holy Death). The women of Casa X are stuck at the bottom of the ladder of this world, and keeping the memories of it in their bodies.